Friday, December 2, 2016
Many times in my travels I speak to women who tell me about how their pets (usually their dogs) are out of control or they simply don’t listen to them. They have their hands full enough with kids in the house and keeping everything under control. They also tell me they don’t have the time or energy to do more extensive walks or do any additional training etc. Here are two quick steps to help you regain control and set boundaries for your pets so you can have a little more peace and order in the house.
First step is you need to be the leader, the one who controls the resources and enforces boundaries. Pets need boundaries to be set and enforced. In the absence of boundaries and rules, they will make things up themselves (which usually results in something of their choice being chewed up). Leadership does not mean yelling a reprimand or being abusive. Leadership is calm, focused confidence that you are running this program. All good things come from you. When you tell your pup to sit – it is in a “matter of fact” tone. A consequence to not doing an action is the pup doesn’t get the treat they want.
Which leads me to the second step – they need to work for their treat or their food. At meal time, your pup or pack should sit before the bowl touches the floor. Some people insist that their dogs wait in another room while the human family eats at the table. If they are going to go outside for a walk, have them sit first. The reward is getting to go outside. The point here is they must listen to you. If there are kids in the house – the whole family must be a united front when it comes to boundaries.
Otherwise, the pup or pack will play you off of each other.
Friday, October 28, 2016
Last week I posted about understanding and supporting your pet when they grieve. Today I want to talk about when we grieve for a pet that has passed. For a great many people the attitude of a pet passing was simply “What a shame, it’s just a..(fill in the blank), you’ll get over it” Or the majority of the human race feels that animals are not worthy of a deep grief from a human. Luckily, that attitude is changing as is our global consciousness towards animals. One example is for K9 police officers who are killed in the line of duty - are given a funeral with full honors. Even Bretagne, the last search and rescue dog during 9-11 walked through a line of firefighters on her final walk before being released to the Rainbow Bridge Click here for her story.
When we make an agreement with an animal - regardless of species to share their lives with us and us with them, we make unspoken, yet understood promises to and for each other. We forge a “contract”. In this contract, we promise to care for them, give them food, shelter, medical care and to become a part of the family. They promise to give us their all, to be our teachers, our companions, our guardians and our comedians with unconditional love. One of the promises we must always make, and one that we must always agree to, is that when they ask us for the final release, then we must honor that request. We cannot and must not let them suffer. To do so would mean we would go back on our promise.
During the time of the contract, our animal companions truly become bonded to us and are family members - 100%. It stands to reason that the bonds of love are also forged during that time. When a furry family member passes, our grief is very real and very valid. Everyone grieves in their own time in their own way. The important thing is to let your grief flow the way it needs to. There are a few online resources for grief support groups. Or if you’d rather punch pillows/cry/scream that’s ok too. Remember to be gentle with yourself during this time. No one can tell you when you have grieved enough.
One thing to always remember - the bonds of love are unbreakable. While the physical form is gone, spirit and love are endless and eternal. Pets who have recently passed will hang around for about a month or so to make sure we are ok. So, don’t be surprised if you think you see your pet out of the corner of your eye or from behind the curtain.
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Monday, October 10, 2016
Rescuing a pet comes with many benefits for all parties involved. The people get a new family member and the pet gets a new life. With a rescue also comes a new set of potential emotional/behavioral issues that can leave the adoptive parent puzzled. Here are just a few issues and what you can do to help your new family member move through them.
Pet has accidents in the house: Rule number one with any rescue of any age is you will have to housebreak them. They are entering a new house and a new routine - so there may be some accidents. It’s up to you to show them where it is appropriate to go potty and to learn what your pets cue is.
Pet is chewing things: The act of chewing can stem from a variety of reasons. If the pet is young, they could be teething. Your pet could also be bored. Offer your pet something appropriate to chew and keep the things you don’t want to be chewed out of your pets reach.
Pet is aggressive: This one is a little tricky. Is the pet guarding a resource like toys? Is the pet food aggressive? Is the aggression coming from fear? In all of these cases - if other dogs or small children are involved you need to manage the situation. If you have multiple dogs - every dog should have their own space to eat away from the other dogs. Fear can be lessened by building up your pets confidence (basic obedience training with positive reinforcement is a great start). Sometimes an aggression issue requires more in-depth work with a specialist.
Once you are in a place of understanding about your rescue - you and your new family member will have a long and happy life together!
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Tuesday, September 20, 2016
In my travels, I hear a lot of people say “I don’t know if I want to hear what my pet has to say. What if it’s bad and they don’t like me?”
Folks, I’m here to tell you in all of the time I’ve been an Animal Communicator - NO ONE of ANY species has ever told me “You know, I really regret being with this person, the care here sucks and can you come find me another home?”
If there is a mismatch between a pet and the people, you will know long before an Animal Communicator gets involved. Usually, a mismatch is recognized in the first few days. In some instances (and I’ve only heard of a few of these), a pet will run away because they have another purpose in mind (but that is a completely different topic for another time).
The bigger picture here is that our pets want to be with us. They want us to be happy. They want us to be happy with them. They enjoy the quality time of being a partner with us and exploring this world together. They are our companions, family and teachers.
When you feel you are too busy and life is taking over, stop for a moment. Take a breath and be the leader of your own schedule and make that investment of time with your pet to enrich the bond you already have. A little bit of time will go a long way.
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Thursday, September 15, 2016
Today I want to focus on the first step to understanding your pet. As I tell people what I do, inevitably they will tell me “I think my pet is trying to tell me something, but I don’t know what she’s saying.” More than likely, your pet is communicating with you. In that moment, you just can’t hear them.
The first step is to settle down and be quiet. Stop what you are doing, take a deep breath, clear your mind of everything, and simply be calm and open. Give your pet the benefit of the doubt that they are communicating with you (more on this topic in a later blog post). For now, be quiet and simply listen. You can even say hello and see what happens. You may be surprised at what you hear!
Don’t be discouraged if you don’t think you’ve heard or understood anything from your pet. Building your intuitive senses can take time - so keep practicing!
Remember to listen with the intent of listening, not with the intent to reply.